Well, after much deliberation and long talks with my parents and then the preschool director, it was decided that Isa will take a break from preschool. All the crazy behavior is shouting that she's just not ready yet for preschool. On many days, there is a single teacher for the 5 children and that means no real one-on-one time. So Isa is misbehaving (in BIG ways!) in order to get that attention. We'll keep in touch with Sprout and maybe she'll be ready to try again in the fall. I really think that this preschool is a great fit for her if/when she's ready for that much time away from me, in a group setting. She did well when it was twice a week but three times a week was too much with everything else we have going. If money were no option, I'd just continue to pay the full price and send her twice a week. But our budget can't take that.
There were lots of tears on my end about this decision, primarily because I LOVE this preschool. I love the director and teacher. I love the other kiddos. I love the location. I love the entire vibe of the school. And while logically I know this has nothing to do with my parenting, it still feels like a parenting failure that my child is the one having major tantrums. It's pretty devasting when your child has such extreme behavior issues and difficult not to take it personally. Plus-let's be honest- there's also a part of me that is selfishly sad to be losing my scheduled baby-free time each week.
The upside is that we'll have more free time again. And this summer is already grossly overscheduled and a little less running around will be good. There are lots of friends that we haven't seen in months because there just hasn't been any time to get together. Without MWF school, there will be more opportunities for my parents to take Isa for overnights. Then today we took my car into the shop for a tune-up and found out that there are some major repairs needed. For example, the left front wheel could have broken off at any point- yikes! It isn't worth putting that much money into the old car, so any saved preschool money will be used towards a new car.
The 2010 to-do list is really turning out to be a bust!
5 comments:
The list isn't a bust, it's just changing! And it will be a lovely summer with more time to spend relaxing! I'm thinking picnic by the lake sometime this week!
first of all, please please please don't even let yourself think for a minute that this is some kind of parenting failure. every single kid has acted out - every one. and some save it all up for one environment - others spread it out. whatever. she's TWO. and that's what two-year-olds do.
i'm so sorry you are losing your time off, but sounds like it might be working out for the better in a lot of ways.
hang in there - as you know, they grow and change so fast... may not be long before she is ready!
Oh I LOVE the new blog look!!!! LOVE It!
We need to hang out soon-did you get my call?
Don't worry about fits-A. is in a horrible fit throwing phase and its making me CRAZY but what can I do?
They are little complicated people and we're just along for the ride.
Solome is a total terror too. She beats up her big sister and bosses everyone around. These strong little girls eventually be the leaders of the world. Things get much easier at four. I know it is a ways off, but it gets much less of an effort. We are headed to Heritage Camp this year, so I hope we see you there.
~ Heather
You are not alone in the challenge of helping your adopted child deal with the internal anxiety created by adoption. One of my friends gave me an article you can download online titled, "Inter-country adoption: Information for teachers." (Post Adoption Support Services, RElationships Australia). It might help the teacher when she goes back. None of this is about you, it is all about late adoption (anything over 6 months). Another author is Davies ... he wrote a book I found helpful but others found too academic.
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