Friday, July 2, 2010

Et tu, Isa B

The last two weeks at preschool have been dicey for Miss Isa B. Last Wednesday she started throwing things and Friday it got so bad that they called me to come get her. She was throwing toys AT the other kids and I could hear her wild animals screams in the background.

After racking my brain, all I could think was that it had been a very hectic couple of weeks. She was going to sleep a little later because of the longer days and still getting up by 6 a.m. So maybe she was harried and sleep deprived (a combination I know well). And she just snapped.

She spent the weekend with my parents and seemed to do well. Monday and Wednesday this week she did much better at preschool. A few minor incidents of throwing or hitting, but easily redirected and no tantrums. Pretty typical preschool stuff. I thought perhaps the previous week had just been a fluke.

Until today. When I got a call that she was again throwing. The teacher would put her in the "take a break" beanbag and instead of waiting until she'd calmed down then rejoining the group, Isa would sneak back into the room, grab something and throw it, then go back to the beanbag.

On the way home today, I asked her about it. Here was our dialogue:

Me: Isa, Miss Rachelle said you had trouble with throwing again today. Why were you so mad?

Isa: (in a sad, soft voice) I want to be with you.

Me: Don't you want to go to preschool?

Isa: No. I want to be with you.

*sigh* It's hard to argue with that. It isn't a necessity. She doesn't have to be in school because I'm working. It's supposed to be a treat for both of us. She's not yet three and she's definitely a Mama's girl. Maybe she simply isn't ready for preschool yet. To be honest, that's exactly why I didn't go to preschool- I wanted to be with my mom instead.

And now, lest this post become too depressing as I think of the loss of my morning free time, I leave you with a goofy picture of Isa, Space Cowgirl. (She's wearing a pseudo-cowboy hat and astronaut vest.)


Kerri said...

Poor Isa and poor mama! Hope things get better for her soon. It's so hard figuring out how to handle frustrations when you're two.

Hippy Goodwife said...


I'm not a stalker, promise! I am a friend of Heidi and Joe. Have you considered a co-op type preschool. You would still have some free time and she would get some time with you at preschool. It can be a good transition to all out independent school.

Hope you find a solution that works for you.

Being a Mama is HARD! But I think you already know that.

Anonymous said...

oy. that doesn't sound fun. but it does sound very very TWO. she could also be testing to see how much she can control the situation - as in, if I misbehave enough, can I get my way? And it's hard to adjust to being in a group environment when you are used to getting the exclusive attention of one adult. not sure, of course, but you might want to give it a little time before pulling her out? but don't put much weight on my opinion - you know her best!

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