I only shampoo it maybe once a week or once every two weeks. On bath days (about every other day), I wet her hair and slather on a good conditioner. Right now I'm using a Dove conditioner for dry hair but when that runs out I think I'm going to look for something more specific to African hair. I comb through her hair with the conditioner in and leave it like that while she plays. Near the end of the bath, I rinse out the conditioner and put in a leave-in conditioner like Infusium.
On non-bath days I still wet her hair down a little to reset the curls and make it easier to comb through. I then add Carol's Daughter Hair Milk, focusing mainly on the back portion. I went to Sephora to check out the Carol's Daughter products since I'd heard rave reviews but also lots of mention of the scents of various products. It's true- the products are all heavily scented and oddly, the scents aren't unified. I highly recommend you go test them out before buying. The Hair Butter was WAY too intense for me (and I really don't have a sensitive nose). Another product smelled okay but was much greasier than Isa needs. The Hair Milk does a great job of defining the curls, even in the back, and making her whole head look nice and glossy.
Her usual style is simply two barrettes in the front. As a straight-haired Mama, I LOVE her curls so I like her to be fairly natural. But, her hair is getting super long now and I guess I need to start experimenting with other styles. It will go up into to little poofs now without any trouble (see below). I know she won't sit still long enough for braids. Plus, I'm much too inept with hair to make that work. I think I need to buy a few headbands and see if she'll leave those in. Any other style suggestions????